Communication gap between parents and kids

Our parents are our first teachers, we acquire lot of things from them and for parents their children are very special. In ancient times, parents used to bring up and guide their children at every stage of life. Grandparents used to recite stories for Grand children, mothers used to cook delicious food, fathers used to teach good lessons of life and so on. But now it seems completely different because our parents don’t have time for us and if our parents want to talk with us we are busy in our own world. And it’s leading to communication problem between parents and children. 

My intentions are not to hurt feelings of people but it’s just an attempt to draw your attention towards this sensitive issue. 

First of all there is generation gap between parents and children and because of this they find it difficult in adjusting. Parents expect that their children must have patience like they possess but new generation doesn't have that kind of patience which our parents possess and they hanker after things to happen as quick as possible. New generation sounds practical and their parents somewhere dissent in being practical all the time. Now children do not thirst for marriages but they feel satisfactory in live-in relationships but parents long for arrange marriages for their children. Children wish for late night parties but their parents do not concur on this. I understand that there is a gap in ideology of parents and children but if they both will seek their best they will definitely cope with this. Parents always desire that their children stay happy so for their happiness they should accept their children’s ideology, and if parents can do so many things for us so can’t we compromise with our late night parties or something else. 

Hectic life of today's time is making a colossal gap between parents and children. Parents work for the whole day and when they come home they just hope for rest so where is the time for communication. Jesse Jackson asserted, "your children need your presence more than your presents".  When children have time their parents are not available and if parents somehow manage time their children are engaged in school or college work. Because of extra workload of office, school and college, parents and children are now sensing a gap between them. 

Social networking sites are playing a stout role in making communication gap between parents and children. Now children spend their most of the time on social networking sites and they don’t even want their parents because their friends are becoming more important in their lives. My mother often complains that new generation is just concerned for their friends they don’t even talk with their parents. And somewhere i agree with her because now a days a child is solicitous for his/her friends. But it’s not the flaw of children because somewhere our parents are responsible for this situation because they don’t have time to listen to their child and children want someone who can communicate with them. If parents are ready to pay attention to their children then I don’t think we have to waste many hours on social networking sites.

Our parents crave for ideal children. My friend said to me once that, 'believe it or not, the worst thing to hear from your parents is I’m disappointed in you'. If your neighbor scores more than you, they will say look he/she is so good in studies, but you don’t pay attention towards your studies. If someone is good in any kind of activity they will say see how good he/she is, but you do nothing. And in fact because of all these things children feel separated from their parents because their parents don’t accept them the way they are. It leads to hiding things which generally children do because a child knows that their parents will not allow them to do so. But if parents accept their child the way he/she is then may be children and parents can come together.

All I can say is parents and children should understand each other only then the problem of communication gap between them can be solved.

End of the Line

I want to convey a short message that there should be a friendly relationship between parents and children. Parents and children must respect each other’s feelings. Just try to hear to each other and give time to each other. We should focus on our real friends i.e. our parents because they will never let us down whatever the situation is, so start talking with your parents. I know our thinking is very much different from our parents but if we’ll lend an ear to them they will definitely attend you one day. It’s a beautiful relation just nourish it and trust me you’ll feel marvelous. 

Read more…

Life has become a Race

I woke up in the morning and ran towards my bathroom. After being ready for college I requested my mother to give me my lunch and as always she said, "eat your breakfast". And I replied I’ll be late mom I have to reach on time. But while I was on my way to college I realized that I’m skipping everyday lot of things, whether its breakfast, my favorite movie, my stupid talks with my elder brother, outing with my friends and many more things. Like me everyone is making compromises in their lives. Everyone is just trying to reach somewhere and in the process of at arriving at that point we are losing beautiful moments of present. The way we are living our lives is really different from ancient times. Yeah you’ll say its competitive world and we have to sacrifice certain things for a good life. And I would say yes may be but for future why we are making our present a RACE?  In this article I’m going to put into words ideas on life that now has become a race.

Our life is a wonderful gift from God to us and in our own life we honestly don’t have much time for ourselves. We wish to score well in college or school, we want to make good presentations for office,  we desire for attaining same status and wealth that people around us possess, we become jealous as well and now we have lost our smile somewhere in the continuous struggle of life. That’s what our life is. I remember here a nice line by Thomas Fuller; he said "we are born crying, live complaining, and die disappointed". We do things and when result comes out we say oh it’s not that good. But we don’t even think for a second that in accomplishing this NOT SO GOOD what we have immolated.

I have seen people around me who always turn down to do their favorite things just because of studies, because of office or something else. I asked my friend to go out but she replied she’ll study for exams so she can’t come and I was surprised because she loves outings and there was whole one month left for preparation of exams. We always want to go on top and it doesn't matter what we have to give up at reaching that place.  If we’ll somehow manage to be on top but do you think we’ll be able to live these amazing moments of present again? No these present moments will be reminiscence of past in future.

In school or college we desire for  number one place no matter we genuinely want that place or not because most of the time we do things for our family, for our future, to show someone or something else. Our parents say if you’ll not score good then you’ll suffer in future but what about the present? Our parents work undoubtedly hard so that we can live a satisfied life but I maintain if my parents are with me and they are there to listen to me only then I’ll feel satisfied. I think for living a blithesome life we need love not materialistic things. I would like to share one incident, my neighbor was working really hard so that he can buy a diamond ring for his wife but when he gave that ring to his wife, she said she doesn't need these diamonds but she just wish for his time, she would be more happier if her husband would spend his most of the time with her.

We all are just taking part in a race and the funny thing is our motives are different but still we are in the same game. Some people want good jobs, some wish for fame, some desire comfort life in future and so on but that’s all we want from life? Some of you’ll say my philosophy will not help me in future and I’ll verbalize that I want to live each and every moment of life so I’m quitting this race.  Eleanor Roosevelt verbalized," the purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences". If we’ll always strive for a higher status, give more importance to materialistic things and always become a part of competition then we’ll miss rich experiences of life.

We see competition is everywhere, be it admissions or placement we have to just run for securing a place. From our first step to our last step we just run. No doubt if we want to survive we have to run but it’s our life and will we just run? No we must enjoy our lives the way we want to. I know now a day’s competition is very tough and for that we’re yielding up relationships, paying no heed towards our happiness and we are just transforming into a machine. But after doing everything honestly we don’t feel much felicity because we have wasted our present for future.

Life means our happiness and it can only be attained by living little moments of life. Long drives in rain with our loved ones, dancing on funny songs, starting morning with fresh flowers, having fun with our family and friends, reading our favorite books, following our passion  and so on; these are some things which can be little moments of life but trust me these will serve you immense happiness. No matter what our choices are but when we’ll forget about the rat race and focus on our lives we’ll find true purpose of life.

 End of the Line

Our life is an irredeemable gift given by God. We should taste it and experience it to utmost. Don’t bother what others have in their lives and don’t be jealous.  When we’ll be old then we’ll realize what we have missed because if we’ll be a part of race throughout our whole life then we’ll not have memories that can make us cry or laugh. Life is full of uncertain things, just go with the flow. When we do things without thinking so much only then we experience unexpected things. I know my words are sounding stupid but this stupidity is really good for living a happy life. So try to do everything which you want to do and trust me you’ll feel awesome and do tell me what you did for your happiness. Stay happy and keep experimenting in life.

Read more…