Our parents are our first teachers, we acquire lot of things from them and for parents their children are very special. In ancient times, parents used to bring up and guide their children at every stage of life. Grandparents used to recite stories for Grand children, mothers used to cook delicious food, fathers used to teach good lessons of life and so on. But now it seems completely different because our parents don’t have time for us and if our parents want to talk with us we are busy in our own world. And it’s leading to communication problem between parents and children.
My intentions are not to hurt feelings of people but it’s just an attempt to draw your attention towards this sensitive issue.
First of all there is generation gap between parents and children and because of this they find it difficult in adjusting. Parents expect that their children must have patience like they possess but new generation doesn't have that kind of patience which our parents possess and they hanker after things to happen as quick as possible. New generation sounds practical and their parents somewhere dissent in being practical all the time. Now children do not thirst for marriages but they feel satisfactory in live-in relationships but parents long for arrange marriages for their children. Children wish for late night parties but their parents do not concur on this. I understand that there is a gap in ideology of parents and children but if they both will seek their best they will definitely cope with this. Parents always desire that their children stay happy so for their happiness they should accept their children’s ideology, and if parents can do so many things for us so can’t we compromise with our late night parties or something else.
Hectic life of today's time is making a colossal gap between parents and children. Parents work for the whole day and when they come home they just hope for rest so where is the time for communication. Jesse Jackson asserted, "your children need your presence more than your presents". When children have time their parents are not available and if parents somehow manage time their children are engaged in school or college work. Because of extra workload of office, school and college, parents and children are now sensing a gap between them.
Social networking sites are playing a stout role in making communication gap between parents and children. Now children spend their most of the time on social networking sites and they don’t even want their parents because their friends are becoming more important in their lives. My mother often complains that new generation is just concerned for their friends they don’t even talk with their parents. And somewhere i agree with her because now a days a child is solicitous for his/her friends. But it’s not the flaw of children because somewhere our parents are responsible for this situation because they don’t have time to listen to their child and children want someone who can communicate with them. If parents are ready to pay attention to their children then I don’t think we have to waste many hours on social networking sites.
Our parents crave for ideal children. My friend said to me once that, 'believe it or not, the worst thing to hear from your parents is I’m disappointed in you'. If your neighbor scores more than you, they will say look he/she is so good in studies, but you don’t pay attention towards your studies. If someone is good in any kind of activity they will say see how good he/she is, but you do nothing. And in fact because of all these things children feel separated from their parents because their parents don’t accept them the way they are. It leads to hiding things which generally children do because a child knows that their parents will not allow them to do so. But if parents accept their child the way he/she is then may be children and parents can come together.
All I can say is parents and children should understand each other only then the problem of communication gap between them can be solved.
End of the Line
I want to convey a short message that there should be a friendly relationship between parents and children. Parents and children must respect each other’s feelings. Just try to hear to each other and give time to each other. We should focus on our real friends i.e. our parents because they will never let us down whatever the situation is, so start talking with your parents. I know our thinking is very much different from our parents but if we’ll lend an ear to them they will definitely attend you one day. It’s a beautiful relation just nourish it and trust me you’ll feel marvelous.