Every time I think of the state
of women I note that they suffer each and every day all over the world. But
when it comes to examine reasons behind these sufferings I have found two
things i.e. first of all our society does not provide equal position to a woman
as man possess and the second thing is women themselves don’t act if something
awful happens to them in most of the cases.
In this article I’m going to
address particularly women. Some of you may find it against women but in true
sense it’s not against any woman. My intentions are not to highlight short
comings of women but I only pine to convey that at least now it’s high time to react
against everything which a woman finds intolerable.
Indian society holds that 'husband is
God' for a wife. But when this God disrespects his wife what can we make of this so called God? For the sake of values and customs of society a woman
agonizes every day. But somewhere a woman is accountable for her suffering too.
I credence if you decide to repudiate something no one has the power to force
you to do anything but you have to show that courage to rebuff. Whatever the
situation is it’ll definitely change when you wish to change it. I think a
woman should hold an attitude, “If you’ll give me one blow I’ll give you two”.
For me it’s not violence when it’s in self-defense and I would rather call
it intelligence.
We complain most of the time this
and that happened to that woman but when it comes to lend a hand to her we simply
affirm it is her personal matter, how can we say anything? Yes it’s her
personal matter and if she doesn't have the courage to help herself no one can
help her. But sometimes conditions are very toilsome and a woman needs support
from her family and society so in that case it’s not only her personal business
it’s our responsibility as well. If something bad is taking place in front of you then I don’t think you have to tolerate it. Support women around you, may be your one
step can save a life.
I would like to share an incident,
once I was travelling in a local bus and a boy was repeatedly trying to make a
girl feel uncomfortable and we all were aware of this thing. At last that girl
shouted and everyone in the bus supported her. My purpose of sharing this
incidence is that when that girl took a stand for herself only then others supported her. If you’ll not respect yourself no one will give you respect.
That girl could have simply ignored this thing but running from problems is not the solution of anything. We should act accordingly and instead of ignoring we
should face problems.
I hold when we accept anything
without acting is a complete failure. I’m not in support of taking things as
they come to us. No one has the power to create a new life on this earth but
only a woman. She is a strong individual psychologically as well as physically. What she
really needs is to just understand her strength. No one can defeat you if you're determined not to be defeated. Marilyn Vos Savant averred,
Being defeated is only a temporary condition, giving up is what makes it
permanent. Don’t give up, fight back. Respect yourself and start acting.
End of the Line
In the end I just wish to assert that either 'act' or 'accept'. If you
find something disrespectful then don’t accept it; fight for your respect. Instead of
complaining take a stand for yourself. Have faith in yourself. If you’ll not try to
help yourself no one can help you. Respect yourself only then others will
respect you. Every woman would love to see a new change and for that we have to
act. So start acting and I know a woman is capable enough to face any problem.
Just be confident and live your life on your own terms.