She has always been a mother,
sister, wife, daughter, and so on. Whenever we have in mind 'woman' we proudly
assert, she plays numerous roles. Did we ever come up with the idea that by
performing all these roles, she has lost her individuality? Why she cannot
have an untrammeled identity? Why she has to be perpetually a mother, sister,
wife, daughter, and so on? Is she incapable of having her own identity? Why we pinpoint
her as a female or a woman? Why we can’t merely put forward that she is a human
being? This article questions the real identity of a woman. Like my other posts
I don’t intend to maim anyone and this piece of work is down to the ground is
based on my surveillance and views.
J.S.Smith ones said; “Women were taught from grass root level to
control themselves”. This statement presents an impression that though
we reckon her a Goddess, appreciates her for having different roles but
somewhere we subjugate her true identity. She has never been told to behave
like an autonomous human being. She has to be everlastingly just a mother,
sister, wife, daughter, and so on. But the question is why she cannot have an
identity of her own? And answer of this question lies in our credence, our
mentality, and our rearing.
Like J.S.Smith, Simone de Beauvoir remarked “One
is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.” She arrives in this world
akin and it’s us who define her as a woman. She’s trained to act like a
woman. We never empower her to have identity of her own. We never accept her as
a human being but rather mold her into a category called 'woman' who is reckoned with flimsiness and not
having intellect. By the example of Africa and some other parts of the world we
can imagine how pathetic the state of a woman is. They are treated like animals.
On the other hand in Amazon, women hold higher position over men. But why we
can’t admire her as a human being? There’s no desideratum of superiority or inferiority. we just have to create a balance. We necessitate just equality. Patriarchy takes up a humongous role in
shaping her as a woman. It never allows her to have an equal place and that’s
why she’s labeled woman, so that there can never be equality.
It is an old belief of Indians;
“YATRA NARYASTU PUJYTE, RAMANTE TATRA DEVTA” (God lies there, where women are
worshiped). We proudly mark her tantamount to Goddesses but modern historians,
thinkers and philosophers point out that by associating women with Gods, we
dis-articulate her from others and deny her status of a human being. We hold; “respect
her because she a mother, daughter, wife, sister, and so on”. But why we are
not affirming that “respect her because she’s a human being”?
The problem is that she’s
ignorant of her actual identity. She has been framed to function only as a
woman. And it’s us who have trained them to behave like a mother,
sister, daughter, wife, and so on. Why she has to be taught how to cook, how to
take care of children and bear children? Why she’s not given fortune of
deciding by herself her acts? There’s a need to bring out the notion that she is not just
a woman/female but she has a self-governing identity as well. She has to admit
that she’s a human being too.
End of the Line
She is not merely a woman but
she’s a human being too. Don’t
rate her as a Goddess. Just accept her as a human being. Permit her an equal
place. She does not deny her status of a mother, sister, daughter and wife but
we mustn't deny her status of being a human too. There’s a necessity to understand
that though she plays ample roles, she has an identity of her own. We have to
alter our mentality towards her. She’s first a human being and then a woman,
mother, daughter, sister, wife, and so on. Don’t respect her just because she’s
a woman; respect her because she’s a human.