She Is A Human Being Too

She has always been a mother, sister, wife, daughter, and so on. Whenever we have in mind 'woman' we proudly assert, she plays numerous roles. Did we ever come up with the idea that by performing all these roles, she has lost her individuality? Why she cannot have an untrammeled identity? Why she has to be perpetually a mother, sister, wife, daughter, and so on? Is she incapable of having her own identity? Why we pinpoint her as a female or a woman? Why we can’t merely put forward that she is a human being? This article questions the real identity of a woman. Like my other posts I don’t intend to maim anyone and this piece of work is down to the ground is based on my surveillance and views.

J.S.Smith ones said; “Women were taught from grass root level to control themselves”. This statement presents an impression that though we reckon her a Goddess, appreciates her for having different roles but somewhere we subjugate her true identity. She has never been told to behave like an autonomous human being. She has to be everlastingly just a mother, sister, wife, daughter, and so on. But the question is why she cannot have an identity of her own? And answer of this question lies in our credence, our mentality, and our rearing.

Like J.S.Smith, Simone de Beauvoir remarked “One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.” She arrives in this world akin and it’s us who define her as a woman. She’s trained to act like a woman. We never empower her to have identity of her own. We never accept her as a human being but rather mold her into a category called 'woman' who is reckoned with flimsiness and not having intellect. By the example of Africa and some other parts of the world we can imagine how pathetic the state of a woman is. They are treated like animals. On the other hand in Amazon, women hold higher position over men. But why we can’t admire her as a human being? There’s no desideratum of superiority or inferiority. we just have to create a balance. We necessitate just equality.  Patriarchy takes up a humongous role in shaping her as a woman. It never allows her to have an equal place and that’s why she’s labeled woman, so that there can never be equality.

It is an old belief of Indians; “YATRA NARYASTU PUJYTE, RAMANTE TATRA DEVTA” (God lies there, where women are worshiped). We proudly mark her tantamount to Goddesses but modern historians, thinkers and philosophers point out that by associating women with Gods, we dis-articulate her from others and deny her status of a human being. We hold; “respect her because she a mother, daughter, wife, sister, and so on”. But why we are not affirming that “respect her because she’s a human being”?

The problem is that she’s ignorant of her actual identity. She has been framed to function only as a woman. And it’s us who have trained them to behave like a mother, sister, daughter, wife, and so on. Why she has to be taught how to cook, how to take care of children and bear children? Why she’s not given fortune of deciding by herself her acts? There’s a need to bring out the notion that she is not just a woman/female but she has a self-governing identity as well. She has to admit that she’s a human being too.

End of the Line

She is not merely a woman but she’s a human being too. Don’t rate her as a Goddess. Just accept her as a human being. Permit her an equal place. She does not deny her status of a mother, sister, daughter and wife but we mustn't deny her status of being a human too. There’s a necessity to understand that though she plays ample roles, she has an identity of her own. We have to alter our mentality towards her. She’s first a human being and then a woman, mother, daughter, sister, wife, and so on. Don’t respect her just because she’s a woman; respect her because she’s a human.